For you. Those who would have this man conform to a list of arguably predetermined character facets, emotional meme checks and ideological consistencies or risk exclusion from any love offering. There is no requirement of humanity that a man be forced to swallow bait or even participate in this fishing expedition. Men need and deserve love not through qualification or worthiness but as a foundational construct of what it means to be human.

There is no urgent desire to resist simply proving someone wrong, for that too would offer too much credit to the analysts of man’s worthiness. Love is not something earned unless in a toxic unhealthy relationship that misses its understanding at outset. Mother’s do not love their children because they are beautiful, talented, smell good, tall, powerful or perfect but simply because Love is the natural recourse to each child. To do otherwise is potential warning.

The refusal of love is a learned aspect of man’s disharmony with man. Yet, most people express that they have been subjected to and fought against people who use love as a control system. Promising the offering of attention or reward of emotional support for performance. As a child who grew into this environment there are many other pains that children or young adults may experience that possesses greater potential of long term disrepair.

The bulk of people who are neither brilliant, beautiful, physical specimen or rich have at some point been offered love for performance or lowering of self respect. If you will love me at some point when I have done x, y or z, then you never will, never did and probably never could love me for the man that I am and will become. Those simple facts and the adherence to the self love in protection of them save more young people from emotional pain that any other simple advice.

No one seeks preaching at each conversation unless they are truly close in relationship to God. In fact, most often preachers are avoided, held at bay or admonished to “lighten up” when it comes to daily living. This itself is misdirection. Not knowing every Pastor personally, I must concede to generalization but the numerous rich experiences I have with Christian leaders finds them not preaching but dedicated to loving and teaching their families in health, faith and Godly appreciation.