I am so thankful when people either love me, not who they are planning for me to become, but the me before them or decide to depart and find someone else to hold to the fire of performance and permission. Operating within the confines of human expectation, is there are worse prison for man that you can conceive?

These are not days to dwell in mires of deception, wondering who of your friends will betray you at the slightest departure from their plan for your life. There is so little time to determine in deception those of your inner circle are real, authentic and mean well for you and yours even when the circumstances are not producing the vibrations to tickle their fancy.

Depart and find a suitable life for yourself, don’t struggle within the strict confines of what God has commanded an Holy Habitation. If you want love you must find it and fight for it in the breast of those who are willing to accept the beauty of what is and pray for the miracle of what shall be in God’s Will for the two of you.

Shaping people is not within my authority nor does it appease, rather the controlling influences of forcing, cajoling or pestering people to become sickens me. This is not commentary on others but when I see this aspect of my own character seeking to conform people to the benchmarks of my own expectation.

Don’t want any of this done to me because I certainly hate seeing myself do it to you. Be who God made you to be and become without wrestling the person He needs to become. If I can aid or encourage amen and amen. If not then most certainly find a group of people who are consistent in their love for who you are. Don’t fight God or fight the wrong people.

Argument is another tool in the potential of human interaction. Only argue when it will produce the benefits of the worth of that interaction. If it is essential to producing a dynamic relationship or producing the best results then I can see its deployment. If not find people who don’t need to argue and rather listen to your suggestions trusting that it is best for all involved.

Please do great things. Thank you for letting go. You may not feel the sigh of relief that you’ve found in not following my opinion praying for conformity or confirmation, but I have been craving it. I love people in my circle. Loving you while knowing that you are on the fringes, analyzing, testing, tasting the benefits of being only so close but yet removed, is exhausting. Not having to wonder if you are ever going to love me or the people I love again is unnecessary dalliance.

I not only have no control, I don’t wish to be in control, but neither do I desire to be lab rat or barnyard animal waiting with expectation for a kind gesture, handful of grain or bale of hay. It is not my right to be loved but it is what God wants for me and the foundation of our relationship. Without love what are we doing and why are we doing it?