Unlike man, God does not tell us to fear loneliness, attempting to fill it no matter the associative costs of motivation by fearful emotion or scarcity. Instead He promises to make for each man in his in-optimal position of being alone a suitable helper. Not a servant for man’s want and desire or willful plan of self, but someone of such unique character that she submits her own will to aid her man in achieving God’s Righteous objectives and Plan, fully understanding this the only path to the ultimate desire a healthy marriage.

Both fully comprehending and submitting to God’s identity for their role in marriage, the man and woman take it upon themselves to walk with God in an educated manner conducive to greatest productivity of Godly definition. They do not resent each other, they do not contend with each other, they do not willfully seek frustration as a unit because their identities and roles are clearly observed and appreciated. They both concur that submitting to God’s Will is not only the chosen path but the best path to be chosen.

Nations outside of this balanced role understanding continue to create conflicts vying for the powers or position of a person that should be the perfect match to their mate. Divorce rates sky rocket as people observing this “winner takes all” mentality with the now non biblical relationship of man to woman. Men are bitter, complaining or silent and reluctant to provide the characteristic unconditional love associated with relationship and service to God. Women seek expression or receipt of love through other means finding that their man has failed their definition of the love they are to provided by entitlement or self requirement.

No one owes anyone anything, except mankind to God. Therefore, unless a clear surrendered relationship exists between: man or woman with their maker there exists no predetermined identity of Love or Reverence to be expected of either party to marriage. Women disassociated to or not surrendered to God, recognizing His authority to define their identity a woman will be reluctant at best and absolutely defiant of offering her man the reverence associated with his image in God. A man will always look to the woman as a reflection of his fulfilled bag of wants and bitter with her when they are not fulfilled in time or depth.

When one of these two parties are out of alignment with God’s will and heaven forbid both then there is little hope of a Godly function to the marriage a vow made unto God. To observe the Biblical definition of role for man and woman in a Godly marriage demands at outset a surrender to God’s Will over our own. The constant failures of either party associated with the unmet expectations of carnal will in either party is caustic to the peace defined with that Godly formula. We must not be unequally yoked in our marriages. We cannot expect our mates to align or mirror Godly image definitions without the primary surrender to God’s Will that brings those identities into alignment.