How does someone say “ain’t never” and truly expect that people will get the gist of its meaning? What does it really mean when someone declares an impossibility as fact, fully knowing that though miracles happen some things are just simply understood? Effectively collectively agreeing that some things have no expectation of occurring. The ugly, poor man with low IQ just never marries the princess, no matter how many romance novels tell us what we want to hear. Not saying that odds as high as billions to one do not occur but they are always associated with a recognition of intervention by a higher power.

I have accepted God’s anointing for my life. Therefore living my life for the sole or reserved purpose of wealth, fame and self-glorification objectives is right out. In fact, even dedication to the sole support of a large family without God’s subsequent provision of the pathway to providing for them is as possible as grabbing a ghost or a handful of helium. By nature my dedication is to my first love, God the Father. And not a simple dedication but a vow to give all my: heart, mind, soul and strength to that effort as to NO ONE ELSE. Having a spouse that would take this central position reserved for God alone is just not going to happen and would in fact short circuit that classic dedication to the anointing offered and accepted.

Being a world class athlete as a younger man was achieved. Pursuing higher education and winning awards for few of the highest available honors was achieved. Great achievement in the work place and high pay was achieved, but those were all undertaken as a worldly man seeking to make the mark of this temporary lifetime. None of them compare to: learning from a senior citizen the secrets to a life well lived while exchanging support time for wisdom, helping someone escape addiction to find Jesus as the Cross and locate their purpose, seeing the innocent saved from a position of persecution to flourish in their safety or loving someone for no other reason than they too are beloved of God and worthy of His gifts.

It must be acknowledged that all those who have been called by the Lord have experienced dreams, wants and pursuits that some point became competition and points of decision with God’s Calling. Many relationships have been challenged, jobs abandoned, material things surrendered and dreams placed in the cupboard for the absolute joy of fulfilling a God given purpose that had very little if anything to do with those carnal pursuits. Vows of marriage are sacrosanct and life lasting. Very few of the prophets appeared together with their spouses if they in deed ever made that connection. Even Moses’ family took second place and never made it to the promise land rather dying with him in the desert. These facts make worldly pursuits unlikely, intangible and perhaps unwise for the man or woman of God’s Calling.

That having been said nothing is impossible with God. For those of you who find the right mate to experience the fullness of shared, combined purpose it may be the greatest gift God could ever bring you, but we must understand the unlikely opportunity for success without such commitment to put God first and together Love Him with everything a couple may muster, intentionally, endearingly, completely. So can’t ain’t never but it is wise to proclaim that it is a thing of very small margin, probability and likelihood, governed solely by God’s provision, protection and promise. That having been said, ain’t looking is a more appropriate term, because in that commitment comes an agreement that whatever God’s give you in the calling will be His will not your own. In fact, these instances may be the greatest tests of that allegiance and challenge your full commitment to the Lord’s will. So, Choose wisely and consider putting your personal dreams, desires and want upon the shelf of Godly Service.