How clear is a man allowed to be in public revelation of the inner Spirit? For years I have struggled with how much is too much, that having been said will relegate me to the persona non grata file for persistent insight. Especially with folks who have been brainwashed in society to believe that men are incapable of intuition of seeing through the eyes of those around them. Look I don’t fault you for being protective of the wounds you have so desperately hidden for so long from so many, but when you’ve come to a Pastor with these gifts please help him temper the sagacity. Salt does not seek to cause damage but cleanse.

You want me to be your “Friend” but in this designation it most often equates to someone who simply listens and never speaks. That is not why God made me a Pastor, that is not why I am filled with His Holy Spirit. I am not your enemy nor do I take pretense in believing that I have absolute freedom to fire, ready, aim in regard to the feelings of humans. Let us remember, you came to me, after long term review of exactly the talents, gifts and realism that I have never hidden in this ministry. I do not come to hurt, wound or exacerbate your wounds, neither did I present myself to obfuscate or allow myself to become part of the dysfunction they have created.

That being said, our job as Christians is love and projecting the fruits of the Holy Spirit on the sphere of our influence. Healing, reviving, raising from the dead, bringing the abundant Life that comes from a relationship with the Lord Jesus. Did Jesus leave people in a wounded state? No, he healed them, often with the conviction and truth that they had been spared in their illness. I am to be gentle, but therein resides a fine line of supporting or enabling the wound to save the person from the personal difficulties of seeing the gangrene within. We must be willing as Spiritual catalysts to open the bandaged wounds in order that Christ may cleanse them, bringing new and everlasting life. I am sorry for one thing, that I had to participate in any of your sorrow for that is not within my heart.

Please pray for and allow me some grace as I struggle with the harshness of my youth in being more gentle. I do so want to approach you and speak with you in full focus upon the right manner and pace of delivery. Can we agree that there was a reason we have been brought together and that is our mutual growth, health and maturation? I would in betrayal to the King and to myself if I were incapable or unwilling to be the man He created in this new wine skin if I stood by and allowed or enabled the very insidious poisons that left either of us in a dysfunctional or wounded state, especially when it may be admitted that is perhaps one of the greatest reasons our paths crossed. It must be addressed that many come to this Pastor proclaiming their love for me in a romantic sense because they have a need or yearning to be free of the wounds and then when Christ sets them free they suddenly lose that original need for this Man they have come to know. This has occurred so many times in a pattern that I would ask that you continue to look at me as Pastor, eschewing for reason the label of Friend, Mate or Man.

In order to see the wounded as they come within my realm of focus I must wear my heart upon my sleeve. This unfortunately or fortunately which ever your perspective opens me to the pain that they are feeling as if it were my own. Or perhaps if you want to view me in that regard you are looking beyond the man that I am. I am a Pastor it is not my career choice it is who I am. There may be a woman to whom I may extend the married grace of infrequently addressing the issues seen through spiritual insight which are often mistaken as analysis, but that woman is going to have to take her own health very seriously in mirroring the man she is with not the man she wishes me to become. There are places that people are going and there are places that they are right now, they ought not be confused.