Don’t fall for love when you can stand and defend it. Rational choices make for better relationships. Emotions though crucial are somewhat inhibiting to the real-world impacts of the heart. Love offered by choice is the only Real Love. For we must all choose to love the real person with whom we may have fallen “in Love”. They, as all humans, do and say things that are offensive and must be forgiven, overlooked or Loved by that same Choice. Maturity and rational thinking, “Wisdom” dictates that we must then examine the Love as a Choice even or especially when we were first enamored or captured by sight.

I met the right one and failed to exhibit the commensurate rational evidence of the inherent preciousness of that moment. Preferring or simply being incapable at the time of recognition sufficient to the importance in the moment. Certainly, we must admit that life comes at us quickly. Therefore, decisions made in the instant may in fact be insufficient in consideration when compared to the importance of life’s objectives or outcomes. Additionally, since the heart is only known by God it is imperative to gain wisdom and discernment to its intentions, desires and propensity to rash determination. Yes, being a teenager is especially difficult as we have yet to comprehend, in most cases the import of our decisions. It is the greatest challenge to defer from one’s own understanding, intentions or emotion to make way for the insight of Greater wisdom.

What then is the recovery from mistakes of this specific gravity or import? Well, we must fully grasp the importance of the walk, either made with God’s intervention or upon our own pursuit. God knew everything I am going to do, need, say or want when I made each decision. Therefore, logic dictates that when walking with Him, inquiring of His input perhaps would lead to making the correct decisions the first time and avoiding any grievous impacts or deprivations of those important plateaus in our lifetime pursuits. In fact dependence of this nature assures through faith that we know the right thing for us will happen at the right time and measure at some appointed juncture in this life. If it doesn’t require the mature admission that God’s Grace is sufficient in all things, including in the abrogation of our choices.

Admittedly, each of us having walked according to God’s Perfect Will are in the best possible place compared to all possibilities. My path is certain my feet planted firmly on the rock which shall not be moved. I am not saddened for that which I did not choose or do not have but rather overjoyed for the things relationships and gifts set before me as the product of having walked in consistence with God. Joy is free, happiness is only assured by self-reliance to defend its modification or absence. Happiness much as with Emotional Love are fickle and change with the content of time’s movement. Love is eternal and seeks not payment for its presence, rather it is the rational choice as the most powerful gift in eternity. The Love of God the perfect example of its surrender, service and perpetuity regardless of receipt.