The choice.  Viewing the world through the perspective of dichotomy of conquest and loss is a deception of limiting and crippling intent. If I have to win or I lose then if I am handicapped in some way this immediately pronounces me, well a “loser”, when in fact my overcoming my challenges whether physical or mental is the greatest demonstration of a “winner”?  If I must overcome everyone around me to be declared acceptable or be recognized as successful, how then may I stop to allow someone else to achieve victory just to see them smile or to compassionately let them feel that moment of success? And conversely, if I have lost ever time how can I then even understand the concept of what it means to win, having never experienced it?  To me it becomes irrelevant and in fact in this realization I become a winner.  And finally, if my identity is tied to either one of these descriptive terms and I am a winner, what happens to me the first time that I lose?

Let us not be limited by the parameters of another man’s thinking.  What if there were more options than just winning or losing, perhaps sharing victory, or working toward another man’s gain, or losing for the sake of winning by the context of greater understanding?  Or what if there never were a winner or a loser, just participants and outcomes?  Just like the good and the bad that occur in my life, I will invariably have some things that would be viewed as “wins” and some that will be viewed as “losses”, but that is a judgment within my own perspective that categorizes the outcomes based on my expectations.  If I must win then to lose is a bad thing and vise versa.  It is all in how you personally look at it.  Now do not ignore, minimize or discount societies need to put things into categories for that is what societies do, because if you do ignore it you will find the beast of public pressure is in deed alive and well and ready to show you its scales, claws and rows of razor teeth.

We were not made to define ourselves but be defined by the Creator who made us.  He says that each of us was fearfully and wonderfully made for a specific purpose within His Plan for Mankind.  He says that He loves us completely and that when He looks upon us He sees His Son Jesus.  How can someone who has a Father that knew them in the womb and never leaves their side for any reason feel as if this world might be defined by simple gains and losses of the war torn world?  Be at peace and understand that we are already victorious, eternally victorious in Christ Jesus the King.