It matters what you think is real.  Just because I see it differently doesn’t make you wrong.  However, when two have conflict and they go to the Word and one person’s view is confirmed to be consistent with God’s perspective, that should resolve the issue.  Quibbles, angers, frustrations and lingering differences of opinion are footholds for the enemy upon which to construct walls between the best of friends and family.  These surfaces should be kept clean of conflict between saints.  Our lives have been washed clean of sin through grace, we should not then think it okay to hold the sins of others hostage against them for posterity.  Where there is festering anger or resentment their will be no fresh growth until that old stuff is cleared away.

I cannot tell you that I will never again offend, anger or frustrate you.  In fact the truth would require me to tell you the opposite.  I am a sinner saved only by the planned grace of God which forgave me of my original sin and continues to sanctify as I subject myself to the Potter’s masterful hand.  I truly wish that I could convincingly proclaim to all those that I love that I will never again dishearten, upset or anger them, but that is not the truth, because I know that I will.  Not by choice, but by mistake, clumsiness or just plain imperfect humanness.  I will however tell you that I will always apologize and try to make amends and the necessary changes to not hurting you in that way again.  That is all that I am capable of promising, except that I will not give up on you even though you hurt me.

Lord, I wish that I could be made whole now and never hurt those I truly care about.  If it is your will, could you please grant my wish to be as kind, honest and careful with their feelings as is humanly possible.  And if it is not humanly possible can Your Holy Spirit grant me the measure beyond my own capacity to make sure that I make no offense, especially to those whom I love.  I am sorry for my displeasing behavior, I know that You have been at work inside me to rid me of these defects and for that patient and kind work I am so thankful.  Please ask them to be patient with me Lord.  I mean well but the little wisdom You gave me makes it painfully evident that even the well intentioned can harm those around them in the process or attempt of doing good.  Forgive me Lord and let me forgive them when they trespass my boundaries.  Let me forget the betrayals and remember the well wishes.  Grant us peace Lord.  We love You will all our hearts.